went to the Singapore flyer ytdy aftnn wif the family and cuzie…
other photos, juz look at my fB 
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Muslim marriages :)
So many people in the west these days decide to form relationships without marriage, perhaps because they fear the seriousness of the commitment, or have observed the marriages of others hit the rocks. Many others take the plunge, but the marriage breaks up alarmingly swiftly.
This is not what any of us want – we want to be happy, and loved, and respected and cherished, from the moment we commit ourselves to each other, for the rest of our lives. Dear brothers and sisters, that is what Allah intended for us – that we should be happy and strong together, so that we might become powerhouses for Islam both in our homes, which are refuges from the world, and in the world.
Our Blessed Prophet taught that marriage, in Islam, is ‘half the faith’. For some people, I am sure it must be even more than half. It depends how much of their life they spend ‘within’ the family, and how much ‘outside’ it. For many wives, as we know, the marriage is nearly 100% of the practice of their faith.
The goal of married life in Islam is much greater than just two people trying to live successfully together. It is to practise Islam within a set group of people (your family – spouse, offspring, dependants), to bring about peace, love, security and happiness, and having achieved this in the microcosm of your own family, to then reach out to the world at large and spread Islam to all.
None of this just comes naturally – it has to be created with love, patience and compassion, and practised without ceasing, and protected at all costs against the selfishness, laziness and temptations and taking for granted that will inevitably beset your relationship. We can see all around us the effects of people neglecting and abusing their relationships. As Muslims, we are requested by Allah to do our utmost to create happy, pious, content and secure households, following the sunnah of our Prophet (pbuh).
Every job, every walk of life needs skills. Most skills do not just come to us naturally – we have to take the trouble to learn them. Exactly the same is true for marriage in general, and for newly-weds, the sexual skills too. Sexual intimacy can be carried out on the purely animal level, and male satisfaction sometimes achieved in seconds – a highly disappointing matter, particularly for the wife. What turns sex into sadaqah is to make it unselfish, and perform it in the best possible way for the sake of Allah – to take care of your partner, and put your partner’s needs above your own. Kindness and consideration. The famous Imam al-Ghazzali recorded a relevant hadith of the Prophet (pbuh) about this: ‘He is not one of us who takes his need of her before he fulfils her need of him.’
You will also need tolerance and patience, and to realise that you do not have the right to be loved or respected. These things are not rights – they have to be earned. You need to remember that fathers and mothers (God willing) love their children without reservations, and forgive them all sorts of awful conduct, and plead for them, and make allowances for them. Even if their children are awful, they (God willing) never cease to love them.
They will excuse every failing, stick up for you through thick and thin, and love you even though you might be a completely horrible person. They will never ‘divorce’ you. But now, as you leave them and start your new life together, you must remember that your partner will not make the same allowances for you as your parents did. If you don’t take your new role seriously, your partner will soon feel upset, offended and become critical of you, and their parents might even become their allies against you.
Nobody has the right to be loved if they are not making themselves lovable. You cannot force someone to love you. You cannot force someone to respect you. Love and respect have to be earned – both from your chosen life-partner, and also from your in-laws (who will not see you in the same light as your own parents).
Remember that newlywed husbands and wives really are ‘new’ to each other. No matter how well they think they know each other beforehand, every married person here would tell you that there will soon come that moment when you are on your own, and you cannot run to your parents for comfort and help.
And if there is love between you now, remember it is a precious thing, like a very expensive pot-plant; it will not grow if you don’t look after it. If you don’t treat it right, it will soon fizzle out, dry up and rot away. Once that has happened, it is a mighty difficult task to get it going again.
Remember, you are younger people. And nobody is perfect. Don’t be too critical of each other when you start discovering all the ‘faults’. It is pointless expecting a young bride or groom to have all the skills and talents and expertise when they start out that it took their parents years to learn. If you feel a complete fool because you burn a meal or turn all the washing pink, remember that your parents may have made even more mistakes than you when they started out together.
You are poorer people. It is pointless to expect to have straight away all the earnings and status of your elders. It may come to you in due course, if you earn it, and if God wills, you may exceed their status and wealth. If you are starting in a new home, build it together – and don’t expect to have everything all at once.
You are inexperienced people. A young husband taking on the responsibilities of a manager in his household, needs to learn how to manage. Abdullah, you would do well to go on a management course, and learn how to deal with people, how to avert trouble, how to give orders without offence, how to reward those who work for you.
I can tell you now what the most frequent complaints are of men and women who are struggling to live together – the most frequent complaint of women about men is that they never listen, and the most frequent complaint of men about women is that they are always trying to change them.
I suppose you will try to change each other – but be warned. If you think your partner has any faults now, which you hope you might be able to put right later on – think again. Any irritants only become worse with age, and even more irritating. If you spend all your time trying to stop your partner being what he or she is, you will get as much pleasure out of it as banging your head against a brick wall.
So, be noble, be kind, be tolerant, compassionate and generous as possible in all your dealings, and perform as nobly as possible in your marriage all the promises regarding sexual fulfilment and companionship. And may Allah bless you and keep your souls safe in His hands, and send his angels to guard you and guide you, and keep away from you all harm of those things that would harm you, and bless your marriage with trust, and joy, and every good thing – we ask it, O Lord, because we know that You love us and want only the best for us. Help us to be aware of Your presence always. Amin.
http://muslimmarriages.wordpress.com/2007/06/06/a-wedding-speech/
sebetulnya…
Ingatlah bahawa lisanmu adalah cermin bagi hatimu.
Berdoalah kepada Allah agar lisanmu dijaga olehNya sehingga dengan lisan itu, engkau selamat dari azabNya dan orang2 yang ada disekelilingmu selamat dr luka akibat lisanmu itu.
Ketika dua orang asing telah bertemu dalam cahaya cinta dan kasih sayang, maka perpisahan yang terjadi laksana memisahkan roh dengan tubuhnya.
Kala hati, pikiran dan perasaan kembali resah dan gelisah gara2 cinta dan kerinduan untuk melihat wajah kekasih, tenangkan keresahan dan kerinduan itu hanya untuk Allah. Mohonlah kekuatan kepadaNya. Berzikirlah. Tenangkan hatimu dengan membaca kalamNya. Hapus air mata kerinduanmu kepada kekasih dengan air mata pengharapan kepada Allah di penghujung malam. ~~~ Ya Allah ya Tuhanku, sesungguhnya aku nie hambamu yang lemah. Kau kuatkan lah hati seorang insan bernama Syazwani ini ya Allah dalam menjalani kehidupan sehari-harian. Sekuat apa pun hati manusia melawan kesulitan dan penderitaan, kepada waktu dia harus menyerah pasrah.
Cinta adalah hasrat yang akan menghantar engkau dalam mahligai rumah tangga.
Ya Allah hanya Engkaulah Dzat yang memegang tali nasib semua MakhlukMu. Aku menyembah Engkau sebab Engkau satu-satunya Dzat yang patut disembah.
Pecinta sejati adalah seorang manusia yang merdeka; patuh dan taat mengabdi dan menyembah kepadaNya sebab sedar bahawa Dia memang satu-satuNya Dzat yang layak untuk dipatuhi dan ditaati.
Cinta insani merupakan pewujudan dari cinta Ilahi.
cinta
Cinta adalah suci sebab ia berasal dari Yang Maha Suci.
Cinta ditanamkan dalam diri setiap makhluk agar dengannya makhluk menjadi suci, dan agar dengannya terjalin kehidupan rumah tangga.
Jika Allah menghendaki kita bertemu dalam jiwa, tentu kita tidak akan bisa berlari darinya.
nice quotes from Regina Brett
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2.Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
3.Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
4. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
5. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
6. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
berani!
Jika engkau berhati2 terhadap sesuatu, bukan bererti engkau harus menakuti sesuatu itu. Hati2 adalah kebijakan jiwa, sedang takut adalah pengecutan.
gerak bicaramu..
Ingatlah bahawa lisanmu adalah cermin bagi hatimu. Berdoalah kdp Allah agar lisanmu terjaga olehNya, sehingga dgn lisan itu engkau selamat dr azabNya & org2 yg ada disekelilingmu slmt dr luka akibat lisanmu itu.
F_____
aku.sayang.dia.jgn.pisahkan.aku.dan.dia.Tuhan.tolonglah.ku.cinta.
dia.biarkan.kami.tetap.bersama.di.dalam.suka.dan.duka.
continuation..Nilai seorg perempuan
Nilai seorg perempuan tdk terletak pd wajahnya yg cantik rupawan, bkn pula pd harta & kekayaan.
Nilai seorg perempuan terletak pd jiwanya yg merindu & menghamba kdp Tuhan. Semakin rindu & semakin menghamba, semakin tinggi nilainya, luhur budinya, baik kahlaknya & indah serta cantik dirinya.
Dlm kerinduan & penghambaan diri kpd Tuhan, cinta bknlah sesuatu yg aneh, hina & rendah kedudukannya. Cinta adalah keniscayaan. Tdk ada yg salah dlm cinta seorg lelaki kdp perempuan & sebaliknya.
Namun dlm kerinduan & penghambaan diri kpd Tuhan, cinta tlh memilih jlnnya sendiri, jln mana yg tdk bertentangan dgn arus kehidupan yg bergerak di bawah kendali-Nya.
Cinta sejati laksana kumbang yg terbang mengitari kelopak melati.
continuation…
Jgn Yusuf!
Jgn.
Jgn kau biarkan dirinya bersanding dgn pemuda lain. dia tercipta utkmu. dia lahir&hidup hanya utk bertemu & mendptkan cintamu. perasaan ku akan terluka manakala tak kau tanamkan benih2 cintamu kpdnya. Lihatlah wajahnya, dia tak bisa menyembunyikan diri dari kejeliaan mataku yg menangkap rindu & cinta kpdmu.
percayalah bahawa seorg gadis yg belum penah jatuh cinta, maka dia akan terjatuh dlm kehinaan & kesengsaraan tatkala dia tk berhati dgn perasaan cinta pertamanya
betapa byk pemuda yg wajahnya menunjukkan senyum & kesopanan ttp jiwanya bagai serigala buas yg siap mencabik2 & memandang seorg gadis sekadar alat utk memuaskan nafsunya…ya Allah jgn lah pertemukan aku dgn dirinya yg sebegini…
cinta sejati laksana kumbang yg terbang mengitari kelopak melati…
